I have enough. I have always had enough. Stuff, that is. Maybe I don’t have what I need, which is why I am constantly trying to find it at James Perse. Ha Ha…I kid, but not really. This is really a discussion for my therapist, but I do think I might have a small shopping problem. But I also think I don’t. I’m not going into debt to buy things, or buying what I can’t afford. I am buying what I don’t necessarily NEED, though, and as I did yesterday, when I go to try my new things on with my old things, I’m reminded of how MANY amazing pieces I already own, and don’t get to wear, that I wonder if I’m just collecting.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that, either, lots of people collect things like art, books, antiques, etc., I just collect clothes. And bags. And shoes. Which I think is actually more practical, because I can USE those things, unlike art or antiques, which just provide pleasure. Ah…there’s the rub. I know this about myself, but here it is again: if it’s not practical, I can’t buy it. I have never been able to spend money on things to look at and simply enjoy. Like art for my office.
The problem is, as I mentioned above, that I look in my closet, and then my other closet, and then in the boxes of clothes I have stored away, and wonder why I need so much. And get frustrated because I want to wear all the things I own, but can’t possibly, given my lifestyle, and the fact that I don’t have to go to work everyday.
I do love everything I own, if I don’t anymore, I don’t have a problem getting rid of it. I just sent a few boxes of clothes/shoes to my sister, and sold my Jerome Dreyfuss billy bag that had been sitting unused for almost a year. I’ve sold countless pieces at designer consignment and given even more away at goodwill.
So, what’s my problem?
It’s that I DO HAVE ENOUGH. I do mini-style sessions when I buy new things and always end up thinking, wow, I have so many good things – EVERY TIME. But I also love shopping and acquiring new things. Of course I do; I make my living shopping and talking about shopping. But it all has a purpose right? An end-game. Which is what? I don’t know. I used to think it was to have the perfect wardrobe or perfect things so that I could stop buying and just enjoy what I have. But I don’t think that’s it anymore. I don’t think I ever want to stop buying – but I do need to strike a balance, and find the discipline to not go crazy buying everything that fits, or that I try on.
Here it is. My end-game: to cement my style, my uniform, and my shopping strategy so that I have just enough, not too much, and I don’t feel overwhelmed or frustrated when I look in my closet. I liked Janice’s post yesterday on reading material related to personal style. And as much as I may think that I do know my personal style; that I don’t need any help defining it, I probably do. She mentions that one of the books has exercises that help you narrow your style down to two words. Two words. I’d like to figure out my two words.
I love to shop, and I will still shop as often as I can, but I need a strategy, and some discipline when it comes to how much I spend and what I spend it on.
So…I have decided that I’m going to engage in a few exercises from now on, and will chronicle them here. First, I’m going to create and stick to a monthly budget for clothes/shoes/accessories and beauty products. Second, I’m going to do a monthly closet inventory and style session to determine what I want or need to buy and what I should get rid of. Third, I’m going to check out some personal style resources and really work on honing in on what I like, and how I see my style (which I think will be a lot more work than it sounds!).
I’ll reserve the first week of the month for these posts, starting in April.
Oh, and here’s what I bought yesterday. At James Perse (I took the tote back). More details to come, but as usual, they’re both absolutely perfect, and stunning on.
Have you ever done exercises like I’m talking about? How have you gotten a handle on your own spending habits? Do you have a shopping strategy?