Bailey44 Dress from Anthropologie (mine is older/sold out, but here is similar in lace, similar short sleeve, similar in petite, similar in multi-colors)
No6 Clog sandals
Candace Ang necklace
Jas MB handbag (link goes to black version)
RGB nail polish in coral
This is not my best outfit picture today, and I didn’t want to show you this one, but I am. For all this talk about me being “real” and “relatable” I’m starting to feel like a fake, because I never show you the flawed outfit pictures; the ones where my hips/saddlebags jut out IN SPITE of the Spanx I’m wearing. I choose to show you the pictures where my arm is down by my side so my left hip is strategically covered and all you can see is where my waist nips in just a bit. Like this one:
But there it is. I didn’t want you to see me like that. I wanted to control the way you saw me, making me appear more perfect, pretending that I don’t actually have hips/saddlebags. But is that what posting outfit pictures is about? being (or at least appearing) perfect? For a lot of fashion bloggers I feel like, yes, that’s what it IS about. But for me, it never has been. I’ve been posting my outfits since 2004 mainly because there weren’t any other “average” sized girls doing it, and also to show you what I love and how I wear it. I’ve never really thought I was trying to appear “perfect” or different, but it turns out, I kind of have.
Then again, why would we want to put anything other than our “best” pictures out there? I mean, theoretically, millions of people could see this picture (ha!), and is that how I want to appear to the multitudes? Now I’m making my head spin. It’s such a silly question, because both the pictures represent me, not one more than the other. The first one just allows you to see what I perceive as one of my “flaws” and the second one doesn’t.
Of course, everything we read and look at in print or online is edited, photo-shopped, and made to appear as “perfect” as possible. Which, theoretically, has been the appeal of fashion blogs: these girls are REAL, NOT edited, NOT photo-shopped. But are they? How long does it take to get the perfect shot? Do they touch up their pictures? Don’t they try to get the best angle?
Not that there’s anything wrong with that, after all, don’t we want to look as good as we can? If we’re going to put an image out there, don’t we want it to be the best we can find? Yes, of course, but isn’t it fun to see the “outtakes” and the not-so-perfect pictures sometimes too?
If you’re a blogger, how do you choose which outfit picture to post? do you try to minimize your perceived flaws?
As a reader, do you relate more to bloggers who look like you? do you appreciate their showing you their imperfections? or would you rather see an “edited” version?