The Great tie dress | I’m wearing size 1
James Perse exclusive Birkenstock sandals
Admonish tote bag
I mentioned last week that I had learned some “new” lessons recently as a result of some new purchases. First, was not to buy dolman-sleeve dresses (or I’ll have to wear a cross body bag exclusively with it), and here are a few more:
- 24 hour rule even when ordering online: sometimes I’ll try something on that I’ve ordered, love it so much, and just take for granted that I’m keeping it, no matter what. Maybe this is because I’ve already paid for it? Probably. But I need to be just as brutal with things I order online as with things I see while I’m out shopping: wait 24 hours before wearing. Although I can’t say that will have saved me from this dress, or other online purchases, but it can’t hurt either.
- Don’t buy/keep something I can only wear with heels – i.e., it is very long. Like this dress. It was still long, even with my Robert Clergerie platform sandals. And then I wore it once with my birkenstocks and it was so long, I was stepping all over it when I didn’t pay enough attention to keep it in my hands, holding it up. And I don’t wear heels frequently enough to own ANYTHING I can wear ONLY with heels.
- Stay away from anything with detailing at the bottom that would be lost in tailoring. I tell my husband when I’m wearing jeans with distressing or holes that “you pay extra for the holes.” And we don’t laugh anymore about it, because it’s true!! That was one thing that made me hesitate before getting it hemmed so I could wear it, the distressing at the bottom of this dress, AND the curved hem. I did manage to keep the curved hem, but of course, lost the distressing. Not a big deal, the distressing wasn’t noticeable, but I paid for it! I definitely am aware of this with pants/jeans; I never buy a pair with zippers at the ankle, or a unique hem, because I know I’ll lose it.
This dress by The Great embodies all the lessons!! Looking back, I shouldn’t have kept it, but I loved it at first try-on, and really wanted a gray long/oversized dress. It’s comfortable, and so easy to wear, but I like my black Oak dress better because it’s 100% cotton and not so flimsy (although that flimsiness is what makes it so ridiculously soft and drapey). But I ran into problems at the outset: mostly all revolving around the fact that it was ridiculously long on me.
Of course that happens a lot with my 26″ inseam, and I usually get things hemmed or taken up at the shoulder straps to shorten them, but was wary of doing that with this dress because I didn’t want to lose the curved hem or the distressing at the bottom. I almost decided to sell it, but took it to my tailor instead, who did a wonderful job keeping the curved hem, but could not have kept the distressing (nor would I have wanted her to, for what it would have cost…).
Anyway, I’m glad I hemmed it (It cost $15) and will continue to wear it, but I like other things in my closet better than this dress on me. And now, given my new “rules,” I don’t have to worry about making a similar mistake again. In theory anyway 😉
It’s all part of being more conscious about what you buy. As I’ve said, you can still make “the wrong” decisions, but at least hopefully you’ll learn from them, and figure out ways to avoid making them again.
What are some lessons you’ve learned from mistakes you’ve made in your closet??
If I really like something, I don’t mind getting it altered for length 🙂
I did look at my StitchFix items with a critical eye this time .. a sweater was included that matched the sleeveless top that I wanted to keep, but ugh, the sweater was a poncho style and I just didn’t like it .. so I returned it. It’s hard to return stuff when it matches or you like the soft material, but it’s clingy .. stuff like that.
I try to visualize what’s going to happen to a piece of clothing .. hangs in closet, I don’t wear it, off to Goodwill. Great for Goodwill, bad for my wallet .. lol.
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Genevieve Roja says
Man, SO many lessons. 1) if it requires a special bra or other kind of undergarment, don’t buy it. I made that mistake recently! 2) suede footwear, while a good idea, requires extra special care and decreases cost per wear, so I try to avoid, but I still fall victim! 3) walking away when a button down gaps at the bust, a constant problem for me and something I like to jerryrig with safety pins to make work 4) buying too many rompers–the impracticality of it should make me run, but I just love the ease… until you have to use the bathroom 5) buying too many of the same thing that’s already hanging in my closet and making peace with what I have already. Your blog is defintely helpling wih this Grechen! And I’m in the middle of Marie Kondon’s book, and am really loving the basic lessons of items “touching your heart” and “sparking joy.” It’s TOUGH!!!
hmmmm…high waisted jeans are not my friend I’ve learned, and neither are fussy or delicate fabrics that don’t wash/wear well. I’ve become brutal about shoes as well because comfort is so hard to come by, which is why i own so few pairs….
Val, buddy…Note to Self: DO.NOT.BUY.JEANS.ONLINE!!!
I just bought the oak dress in grey that you have in black. Parc was having a sale and receiving it I might love it more than the black (I bought the black after seeing it on your blog). You might want to check it out. It is a great dark grey. I super wanted the acne bree dress in grey but could only find it in black and honestly, I like the greY oak dress so much better. Do you know much about AYR? I am looking at their jac jean. Looks like a great wash and fit. I love a high rise but all my jeans are all distressed or boyfriend.
Grechen Reiter says
i bought a pair AYR boyfriend jeans, and they didn’t fit very well, but i have been wanting to try their jac jean – especially since you can order a few pairs for $1 each with their home try on program…don’t know why i haven’t done that yet…