and a back/side view because I’m not sure I’ve shown you how awesome this top is from the back 🙂
James Perse back scoop neck top
Black Crane pants | back in stock at Totokaelo in small and medium (I’m wearing a medium)
Dieppa Restrepo penny Loafers | same style, but mine are nubuck
3.1 Phillip Lim Ryder Satchel
Me & Ro lotus drop earrings
I have a serious problem. I have too many clothes. A friend came over last night to help me figure out what to get rid of and guess how many pieces I decided to part with that I hadn’t already decided to get rid of? ZERO. Actually, she left with a couple of things and I have a few things to send to my sister, but otherwise, she and I agree that I have a lot of really great items in my wardrobe. Which I did know already, but even though they’re all good, I still wanted to get rid of some of them. But I couldn’t. I know. Poor me, and I’m going to stop talking about it, but not before sharing some of my observations:
- Perfection ISN’T going to happen. It’s the search for perfection that leads to too many things, and overspending in my opinion. It’s seeking THE PERFECT white tee that has left me with 20 white tees in my closet. And you know what? They’re all perfect. So, I give up on trying to find THE PERFECT whatever. I will find something I love and that fits me well, and be happy with it.
- Thankfully, I don’t buy a lot for a life I don’t have, but I do buy things I wish I COULD wear, but really can’t (or don’t want to) because I believe in the IDEA of wearing them. Like ankle booties for example. I’m getting more comfortable with the idea of wearing them, and that I actually look okay in them, but I’m still very hesitant. And I have the most amazing pair of ankle booties in the world, the Rag & Bone Harrow booties, but up until now, they’ve only been out once. I play around with them a lot at home in front of the mirror, but they never end up making it into an outfit. I don’t know what the lesson is in that, because I DO believe in trying new things, and going outside your comfort zone sometimes, but I also really hate having things around that I don’t wear, or try to wear and don’t like.
- I think WAAAAAY to much about getting dressed, and what I’m wearing. I don’t have to. I mean, I LIKE to think about getting dressed and what I’m going to wear everyday, but it’s at the point now where it’s consuming. Remember when I did that thing where whatever I put on I had to keep on? Yeah, I haven’t done that in a while…and I need to get back to it. After last night, and my many adventures in my closet, I know that it’s full of things that look good on me, and mostly all “go together”, so I don’t have to think so much about what I’m wearing. But I do get caught up in thinking about what I’m going to do that day, who I’m going to see, what kind of “look” I want to have – if it’s “the right look”, etc., etc., etc., that I become so frustrated and just give up. WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS?
- My life is uber-casual; I work from a desk in my bedroom and some days I can’t even leave the house. I still get dressed, because I have to take the dog out, and I don’t wear pajamas 😉 Most of the time when I do go out, I’m running errands or shopping; so a lot of walking and running around. And I am NOT going to wear my Rag & Bone booties to Target & Whole Foods, I’m just not. I’m also not going to wear leggings as pants. So, when I do go out, I wear what you see in my outfit pictures: simple, casual, easy, comfortable. Nothing wrong with that, but sometimes I think about what I would wear if I was actually going to be out and around people constantly and shop for that (which is why I get so caught up in shopping/packing for trips). I think those types of outfits would only be just a little different, not much, but maybe a bit more “interesting?”
Ultimately, I have decided to stop over-analyzing everything and just GET DRESSED. I’m going to try and wear some of the things I haven’t been wearing lately, and if I don’t, I’m going to get rid of them. I’m going to dress for my casual lifestyle and not worry so much about being overdressed for Target, or underdressed for shopping Neiman Marcus. And I’m going to TOTALLY ROCK these new Vince sneakers I ordered last night when I get them. Because they are SO AWESOME, they are SO ME, and they fit my life perfectly. (happy early birthday to me!) The end.
Do you dress for your life as it is? or shop for the life you want?
Have a great weekend!!!