Mother The Thrasher jeans
AllBirds wool loungers
I have been writing here for an hour and deleted all of it. I am sick of instagram. I am sick of the way people are treated, of all the “influencer” marketing, and the virtue signaling. That was the gist of it, but I used more words LOL.
Anyway, this is what I’m wearing right now, but with a 10 year old Inhabit cashmere cardigan on top. I removed the cardigan to show you the bodysuit, which is no longer available. I stumbled upon it at Everlane while I was looking at their alpaca sweaters a week or so ago and ordered it on impulse because 1. I have been looking for a bodysuit and 2. Everlane SAID it was 100% cotton.
It is definitely not 100% cotton, and of course it wouldn’t be, because it needs stretch, but why would they say it is? Aside from that, I like this bodysuit very much, and when I went back to order the black one, they were all gone from the site. Not anywhere. Hmmm.
My social media albatross is twitter – I’ve not been on Instagram. I get a LOT of news – good and bad – on twitter, and I use it professionally. But when it makes me REALLY rage-y, I put the phone away. Sounds like it’s a good idea for you to do that with Instagram – if it’s not making our lives better, and we aren’t required to do it (for job or personal reasons…) well, let it go!
I like that bodysuit on you – I cannot wear them! I had one in college – it looks cute in photos but I remember the hassles of wearing it. Also, my boobs were at my smallest that year (just post-boob reduction and pre-weight gain in my late 20s) I wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing something like that now. I especially like the stripes!
What is virtue signaling?
Grechen Reiter says
here’s a good definition: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Virtue%20Signalling –
I’m with you re: Social media…the meanness, the fakery, the virtue signaling. “I’m Val, I’m 58, I struggle with depression, I don’t always eat healthy, I love Cheetos, and I don’t exercise.” Not exactly the picture of virtuous Instagram perfection, huh? In spite of all of that, I really like checking out beauty and hair pages, and I search out what I like – Simple, natural beauty, how to enhance natural waves, and home decor. I find it enjoyable as long as I stick to my parameters. Mean gets blocked! I find it easier to avoid that on Instagram than Facebook. I’m taking a break from that and trying to decide whether I need it at all anymore. I sometimes use Twitter to follow politics. But I’m taking a break from that, too, until the next race begins!
Is it possible that Everlane removed the bodysuits from their website because they realized they were mis-labeled? I wouldn’t be surprised… Instagram bugs me too. In fact, I am going through an entire dislike of social media in general these days. I went away on a holiday for a week and rarely touched it. When I did, I would get anxious and upset. So I think I need to quit it for more than a week!!
I don’t do social media for the very reasons you mention…well, I read one, Linda V Wright because she all positivity!
Wish I could wear a bodysuit but um, too much body on my part to look well suited! You look great!
Love those jeans too!
Renata Stone says
1. This jumpsuit looks AMAZING on you. You’re such a babe! And lemme know when they get their jumpsuit back…
2. I am feeling you on the gram. I was just talking to one of my friends about it – we’ve both had varying degrees of success on it and we both still find it kinda gross. In addition to the virtue signaling (which I find more sad than anything else) is the way sooo many try sooo hard to become “insta famous”- constant overdocumenting of life activities and trying to look so casual about it, excessive hashtagging, tagging accounts who will repost your photo, blah blah blah. That all being said, i don’t get too bothered by it because once you realize people are trying THAT hard and that most folks are just show-boating, you laugh it off. It’s desperate and hilarious and you can be stoked you’re not a pandering sheep.
The reason I keep using IG is because it’s the only reason I can make money as an artist. It’s helped me share my work and I can’t be that mad about it.
One of my fav outfits of yours, the bodysuit is very flattering.
I deleted my Facebook account and I’m much happier now. I won’t go into all the reasons why but that it was causing some negative emotional feelings for me. I also cut off my Linked In as I received too many solicitation messages (constant).
I actually love Insta because I love photography, art and handmade items so it is a joy for me to look at photos, art and pottery. I think if one follows fashion or “lifestyle” personalities, it could be a completely different experience. My feed (or my searching certain hashtags) is just inspiration for me to improve my own photography skills or discover new artists/potters/makers. I also have an account for my cat who follows and is followed by many other cats lol so when times are rough a feed of cute kitties is pretty positive. I do follow some clothing hashtags/accounts having to do with with Elizabeth Suzann or the 10 X 10 challenge and have noticed some recent trends. When I started to actually read some of these account captions I noticed a few were posting an outfit pic and then in their caption writing about how they , as a white woman, need to be aware of their privilege and use that privilege to be champions for certain social issues for non-white women and then went on to say what their efforts were. Many of these narratives were in a tone that left me feeling uncomfortable as they came off as superior and condescending toward those they were trying to help. Instead of flaunting logos, they were flaunting how pious they were from their sustainable wardrobes to their championing causes for other races. I’m mixed by the way (1/2 Asian, Okinawan). I stumbled upon several of these in one day and started to reconsider following the 10 X 10 hashtag. Although their intent may have been good, there can be a lack of sensitivity in how one discusses these types of issues.
Anyways, like you said – so many words…
Grechen Reiter says
thank you!! also for urging me to try a bodysuit. i’d been thinking about it, but after you mentioned it to me I decided in earnest that I should try one…
and yes, of course you should use instagram to showcase your art, it’s a wonderful tool for that! – and I use it for slowre, although not as well as I could TBH. instagram has it’s uses, and i do appreciate some parts of it, but i sort of wish we could go back to the good old days where it was more genuine. it seemed that way anyway…
Grechen Reiter says
yes, it’s very possible they removed it because it was mis-labeled. I hope they bring it back though. and maybe a crewneck or turtleneck version??!
Grechen Reiter says
thank you tania!
and yes, this last 10×10 and all the discussions around it really pushed me over the edge. did you happen to see the representation matter hashtag that went along with some of the 10×10 posts? there was a lot of genuine fodder for thought/discussion there, but there was also waaaay too much “virtue signalling” going on for my taste. the flaunting of how pious they were, as you put it.
and as happens with social media, things are misinterpreted and misunderstood regularly, and i felt like people were being mistreated for trying to do what they thought was the right thing – from a place of genuine interest and caring.
haha…i could go on, but so many words….
I didn’t notice the hashtag at first but that explains what is happening with these posts! It makes so much more sense now. I went back and scrolled through. As an Asian American I do know representation does matter (& the manner in which it is done) in media and culture as well as politics/leadership. (& yes fashion too!). Many of these posts had compelling or eye opening stories and experiences. I think I initially happened to stumble upon a few that were a bit more tone deaf in their efforts to show empathy/tolerance and jumping on the bandwagon, lol.
One thing that is interesting to me as well with the brands that are popular with the 10 x 10 group are greatly inspired by Japanese natural fashion. The oversized or loose shapes made in materials like linen made by Elizabeth Suzann and countless other lines seem to inspired by styles from Japan and Korea IMHO. I rarely see this discussed and don’t know the exact history/timeline myself but would love to do a deeper dive on that. These types of loose styles in cotton or linen are not new and are not original creations by the more recent clothing lines.
Grechen Reiter says
yes, there was a lot of jumping on the bandwagon going on…
i remember liz from elizabeth suzann actually mentioning that she was inspired by Japanese fashion in something i read a long time ago, which i found interesting. everytime i go to the bookstore i spend time looking at japanese fashion designers like yohji and issy miyake. i found a book on the history of the kimono once that was fascinating…
I would LOVE a turtleneck or crewneck version of a bodysuit! It all depends on fit/design, though–I did not have good luck with the first version of the bodysuit. I ordered my usual size and the straps were falling down because they were soooooo wide (and I have pretty broad, straight shoulders!).
Grechen Reiter says
check the madewell one I posted today! i’ve worn it all day and i really love it. so comfortable, and it’s “adjustable” to a degree…
Andrea H says
Hi Grechen! Long time no comment here. 🙂 I just have to add that I feel you so hard on what you said about Instagram. (I had to look up the phrase virtue signaling.) I am so sick of Instagram right now too. I am taking some extended time off the platform, and I am a few days in and already feeling better.
Also, drooling every time you wear that Clyde jacket!!! #WANT