Eileen Fisher organic cotton blend jeans (size 4) | on sale at EF!!
Eileen Fisher organic cotton tee (xs)
I had just painted my toenails, so no shoes yet 😉
As an addendum to thoughts on my wardrobe I posted Friday, another “issue” I’m trying to work through is the idea of “special-ness.” I am sometimes still overcome by “should.” As in, “I should wear this more often” or “I shouldn’t wear this to Target/Whole Foods/Costco, it’s too weird.” Mostly now, it’s not so much I “shouldn’t” wear whatever to where ever, it’s more coming to terms with the idea that I’m actually allowed to have items in my closet that I DON’T wear all the time; not everything in my wardrobe is going to be (or HAS TO BE) a workhorse (h/t to Michelle who said this exact thing on her blog today, which I read as I was writing this!)
AND, just because I don’t wear it all the time, doesn’t mean an item doesn’t deserve a spot in my closet. As far as I know, there is still no wardrobe police coming around to evaluate the cost-per-wear of all my clothing and punish me if it’s not down to pennies.
I don’t want to have half my closet full of things I don’t get a lot of wear out of because they’re too “special,” or not practical for my daily life, but half a dozen things? Fine.
Case in point:
I received this Antlantique Ascoli Skirt I bought from Garmentory on Saturday. As soon as it arrived I put it on, and actually wore it out to the bookstore and Whole Foods. And then I wanted to wear it again yesterday, but I was just planning on going to Target, and at the time, I was hanging around the house, and I wanted to wear jeans.
So I wore this Eileen Fisher outfit and ended up not going anywhere at all.
But I was conflicted about getting dressed and what I SHOULD wear. I don’t want to be conflicted like that anymore. Why is that still a thing? (h/t John Oliver LOL)
It gets back to the fact that my wardrobe is full of things I love and always want to wear, but I don’t go enough places to wear them all all the time, or have the lifestyle that I actually need to get dressed everyday haha. And it’s also the biggest reason why I don’t really want to add any more things to my already full wardrobe.
Anyway, the skirt is beautiful, and I hope you noticed the color! It’s really unique and I love the look with a fitted black tee and sandals. I bought it because I was immediately drawn to it the moment I saw it (I love a drawstring waist lately!) and I had credits at Garmentory I wanted to try and deplete before I started not shopping. It will be a great thing to wear when Leo and I go to Charleston for our anniversary in August, with a black tank top and my Birkenstocks during the day, and then to dinner.
And yeah, I can wear it just to whole foods if I want to also. But I don’t have to. I’m the boss of my wardrobe, not the other way around.
Why has it taken me so long to get that???
Happy Monday!!
I find that skirt to be a take on a very practical, every day skirt. The gathering and color gives it special interest — but it is absolutely the kind of thing I would expect a woman-about-town to be wearing. Anyways, you certainly don’t need my two cents, you’ve got the whole getting dressed thing down lol … mainly I just wanted to say it is exactly the kind of thing I would wear out and about on errands. Unless all hell’s broken loose in my house, I almost always opt to “look nice” as my partner says, when I leave the house.
thank you! yes, i do always try to “look nice” as well when i leave the house, but that is such an anomaly around here, and then i feel rather overdone sometimes…
and you’re right, the skirt is very practical, and could be wonderful for every day; very sturdy most of all, like it will hold up to whatever i might throw at it haha!
I think my outfit anxiety comes from wanting to save stuff for hypothetical situations where I “might need it.” I will save my nicer casual clothes because I don’t want them to get dirty or sweaty, and then I *might* have a situation where I need a nicer casual outfit. But…when? Those moments rarely happen. I could consider one such situation to be a date night with my husband, but then we’re usually just going to a movie and I end up wearing super comfy, stretchy things because we’re sitting in a theatre for 3 hours. Or if we’re going to a party or a nice dinner, I’ll change into something more “safe” because I’m worried I look “not like myself” in a different type of outfit.
Aahhh why do we do this to ourselves. 🙂
I had this exact insight a few blog posts ago when I analyzed my past few months of outfits. I have a lot of items I only wear once or twice a year, but if I feel amazing when I wear them, and I have enough room for them, what’s wrong with that??
What a coincidence that we had the same idea run through our head! I guess the nice thing about clothes & style is that we get to write our own rules, and then re-write them again and again.