As an addendum to thoughts on my wardrobe I posted Friday, another “issue” I’m trying to work through is the idea of “special-ness.” I am sometimes still overcome by “should.” As in, “I should wear this more often” or “I shouldn’t wear this to Target/Whole Foods/Costco, it’s too weird.” Mostly now, it’s not so much I “shouldn’t” wear whatever to where ever, it’s more coming to terms with the idea that I’m actually allowed to have items in my closet that I DON’T wear all the time; not everything in my wardrobe is going to be (or HAS TO BE) a workhorse (h/t to Michelle who said this exact thing on her blog today, which I read as I was writing this!)
AND, just because I don’t wear it all the time, doesn’t mean an item doesn’t deserve a spot in my closet. As far as I know, there is still no wardrobe police coming around to evaluate the cost-per-wear of all my clothing and punish me if it’s not down to pennies.
I don’t want to have half my closet full of things I don’t get a lot of wear out of because they’re too “special,” or not practical for my daily life, but half a dozen things? Fine.
Case in point:
I received this Antlantique Ascoli Skirt I bought from Garmentory on Saturday. As soon as it arrived I put it on, and actually wore it out to the bookstore and Whole Foods. And then I wanted to wear it again yesterday, but I was just planning on going to Target, and at the time, I was hanging around the house, and I wanted to wear jeans.
So I wore this Eileen Fisher outfit and ended up not going anywhere at all.
But I was conflicted about getting dressed and what I SHOULD wear. I don’t want to be conflicted like that anymore. Why is that still a thing? (h/t John Oliver LOL)
It gets back to the fact that my wardrobe is full of things I love and always want to wear, but I don’t go enough places to wear them all all the time, or have the lifestyle that I actually need to get dressed everyday haha. And it’s also the biggest reason why I don’t really want to add any more things to my already full wardrobe.
Anyway, the skirt is beautiful, and I hope you noticed the color! It’s really unique and I love the look with a fitted black tee and sandals. I bought it because I was immediately drawn to it the moment I saw it (I love a drawstring waist lately!) and I had credits at Garmentory I wanted to try and deplete before I started not shopping. It will be a great thing to wear when Leo and I go to Charleston for our anniversary in August, with a black tank top and my Birkenstocks during the day, and then to dinner.
And yeah, I can wear it just to whole foods if I want to also. But I don’t have to. I’m the boss of my wardrobe, not the other way around.
Why has it taken me so long to get that???