I love my hairdresser (if you’re in Atlanta and interested in who she is, contact me and I’ll send you her details). I went in yesterday to have a quick trim, but mentioned that I’d love to get my hair off my face, and away from around my neck. I have had a bob hairstyle for years, with long layers and tapered in the back – and it was getting long. Anyway, she suggested bangs. Bangs? I haven’t had bangs since I was 12, and I wasn’t at all sure they would suit my face (which is generally round, and rounder now that I’ve gained a bit of weight). But it’s not hard to convince me to experiment with my hair (of, if that was only true in other parts of my life…) and I trust my hairdresser to help me look my best, so away we went. I was immediately pleased with the results – it was different, yes, but in a good way! When she added the highlights and lowlights, it took my hair to a whole new level…and I couldn’t be happier.
It’s funny, after I got my hair cut and went out to run some errands, I noticed that hardly anyone I saw had bangs. Maybe one out of ten women over 20? Why, I wonder? I definitely think they make me look younger (which is not such a bad thing), but I can see how some may think they are “little girl-ish.” My boyfriend thinks they are ‘weird’ – but I told him he’d get used to them – and I definitely feel like I stick out a little more than usual now. I do feel that many women (and I was also guilty of this when I was in my 20’s and much heavier) hide behind their hair and use it as a safety net. It doesn’t make a lot of sense, really; longer hair doesn’t hide anything. But long, shapeless hairstyles do blend into the background and keep the wearer from being noticed, and when I was in my early 20’s, I didn’t want to be noticed at all. I kept my hair all one length, and down around my face – hiding myself from anyone who would DARE want to approach me or talk to me. **cue world’s smallest violin**
In my mid-20’s I broke out, in a HUGE way. I got my hair dyed blonde, and cut it all off – well, almost…I left about an inch and a half. It was fun for a while, but not my best look in retrospect. After that, I changed my hair every few months, coloring it, highlighting it, letting it grow a bit, cutting it off again…you name it, I did it. That was my rebellious stage – I was making up for ‘missing’ out on my teenage years and early 20’s because of course, I was too fat to do anything. **again with the violin**
Once I turned 30, my life changed. Not overnight, but almost…I began to care less and less about impressing other people, and started looking more inside – learning more about myself, what I wanted and who I was. I lost weight, and that was when I started seeing my current hairdresser, and discovered my ‘perfect’ haircut. Or so I thought…until now 🙂
Who knows if I’ll keep the bangs indefinitely, but I love them, and feel great with my “new” look. It’s also served as a reminder to me how GOOD it feels to do something nice for myself. I do get regular haircuts, and my eyebrows threaded, but I haven’t had color in forever…and highlights make SUCH A BIG difference in depth of color, and add texture to my hair (which really needs it). I also recently updated my eye makeup routine; it needed serious help.
Makeup is a whole other story with me…color scares me…but that’s for another post. If you’re interested in my makeup in this picture, here are the details:
Anyway, my whole point with this post was to remind you to try something different – in every part of your life. It opens you up to things you might not have noticed before, and makes life generally more interesting.