I am SUCH a clotheshorse. I love clothes. I love to shop for clothes, I love to wear clothes, I love to think about clothes. But of course, you know this already 🙂
We were just talking about overalls the other day (JP Linen overalls, specifically), in the comments about James Perse fall, and I can’t stop thinking about them. I would love a pair, they just look so EASY, like just throwing on a dress. But better, because, pockets, and worse because I don’t like to work so hard to pee. I’ve had jumpsuits (have, still, one I wear at home) and I do like them, but I haven’t found one I really LOVE yet. Until these.
Or this? What is a jumpsuit? Plural? Singular?
Anyway, I am so drawn Ulla Johnson’s Nadia Overall. I love that they are so different from other styles out there; they definitely don’t look like the Dickie’s you’d get from Wal-Mart. And that the bib is lowered, and the straps narrow, sort of like an afterthought, or like glorified suspenders. So, not as much like overalls, exactly. Maybe it’s the drawstring waist I love so much, the wider legs.
So, I went ahead and ordered them. I am practicing lately buying my “holy grail” items right off, to quickly get them out of my head and into reality (paying close attention to return policies…). What happens when I do that is very interesting: I usually end up not loving the thing as much as I thought I would, and send it back. Or by the time the item arrives, I’m over it.
I’ve never done that before. I tend to obsess and obsess and obsess for days, weeks, months, trying to find a cheaper option (sometimes I do), or wait for a sale, or just keep obsessing, never buying. And I end up spending an inordinate amount of time thinking about whatever item I’m trying to find, or think I need.
I did this basically all weekend looking for a new bag. You may remember last week I mentioned that I was frustrated with some of my bags, and was looking for ONE bag I could carry for years, and that would suit my needs. Well, it turns out I already OWN that bag, it’s my Admonish curved leather tote. Okay, it’s not absolutely perfect, it could have more internal pockets and an exterior zip pocket or something, but it’s VERY VERY good, the shoulder straps are comfortable, the hardware is matte black, it holds my computer and everything else beautifully, AND my friend made it 🙂
So sometimes your holy grail item is already in your wardrobe, you just need to remember you have it, and start wearing it again to remember why it’s still part of your wardrobe. And even if it’s not your holy grail, maybe it’s so close it will work, for now. Try, at least. And whatever isn’t good enough, get rid of it. I do this a lot, I know: buy and get rid of, but I know now that’s okay, I do buy thoughtfully, but sometimes things just don’t work out until you have them in hand. I am a shopper, and I love to try new things. I pass on the things I don’t love so much, or don’t wear, or don’t suit my lifestyle – I have many fewer things in my wardrobe than you might imagine.
So, these overalls. We’ll see. I may or may not fall in love with them the moment I put them on. I may hate them and send them back immediately. I may wear them around a bit to test them out, and try them on with everything in my wardrobe, decide they’re just “meh” and that I don’t want a pair of overalls after all. Who knows? But now, at least, I will find out. Instead of keeping the fantasy vision of me, perfectly going through life in these overalls, in my head, distorting reality.
This is my job now, my personal goal going forward: get things out of my head as soon as possible and move on. I keep too many things in far too often, and stew and stew and stew. It makes me tired and frustrated. I must do this with everything in my life, starting, perhaps, with my clothes.
There are worse places to start.
Have you tried this? getting your holy grail items out of your head and into your closet? What happens when you do that? do you end up really loving the item like you thought you would? Did it turn out to be the perfect thing? Or not?