Why do we feel bad when a popular brand or style doesn’t work for us and seems to work for literally everyone else? Why do we hang on to things we don’t love? Why do the way clothes fit on us make us feel bad about ourselves????
Maybe we don’t all feel this way all of the time. Sometimes I do.
Especially when instagram seems to be full of OMG I LOVE THIS (whatever), photos and not the eh…I don’t love this so much on me and here’s why. Honestly, though, who wants to post pictures of the things we don’t love? or don’t think look good on us? Would anyone? I get enough criticism for wearing things I DO LOVE, and that I think DO look good on me! LOL
We know this about instagram, and marketing in general; it’s about aspiration and getting us to want to look like someone else, so then we will FEEL like someone else. And who doesn’t want to “feel better” sometimes? And who wouldn’t want it to be as easy as buying a new piece of clothing?
But I digress. I and a few other writers I know, give absolutely unbiased opinions of the things we wear, whether they were gifted or not. We also may omit writing about things we DON’T like, or posting pictures of them, because…who wants to be negative?
And herein lies the problem. Maybe we should all be a little more negative? Or at least we should not strive to NOT be negative. It is all personal opinion anyway. People will disagree. Honest and unbiased reviews should, and do, include perceived “positive” and “negative” features of an item, at least from the perspective of the wearer.
The hard part, I think, is being honest with ourselves. It’s not easy to look past what is shiny and new and popular and at the reality of the thing on YOUR specific body and how it might fit in YOUR specific wardrobe; it takes time to perfect that skill if you haven’t got it already.
That is why. It is somehow easier for us to blame ourselves and/or our body’s “imperfections” than it is to say, hmmm, this type of trouser/skirt/shirt/etc., doesn’t do anything for me, I think I’ll pass. It is made harder when we are inundated with posts and photos of an item we like on people we admire or respect and THEY look amazing in it. So we think we are not good enough for that particular item. If it works for so many other people and not me, there must be something wrong with me.
A picture is just a picture though. It is a split second in time, and usually not an accurate reflection of reality.
Case in point, I am wearing high-waisted underwear (which I LOVE, unequivocally LOL) with these pants, which are NOT high-waisted. The first photo I took, I could see the red of my underwear peeking out between my pants and tank, so for the next one, I tucked it in. No harm, no foul, right? And why would I post that first photo?
Eh, Just a reminder that we should take what we see and read on the internets and social media with a great big old pile of salt. From me also. Over the last 14 years I’ve aimed above all else to be honest and provide as much information as I can about whatever it is I’m talking about or wearing, but I may have fallen short of that a time or two. I am not perfect 😉
We could probably all do a better job at trusting ourselves, loving ourselves, and embracing each moment of our own realities, not trying to get lost in others’.
I definitely could.