I was browsing through Janice’s blog the other day and stumbled upon this post: Do you actually WEAR your favorite clothes? I ask myself that question all the time, and have addressed it once or twice here; how I don’t wear some of my favorite pieces because I’m afraid I’ll “ruin” them, or wear them out by, well, wearing them out.
The hard truth for me is that my lifestyle, my life in general, is so very casual that I don’t even have to “get dressed” most days.
Obviously, I have everything I need for my life – which is working at home, in my office most days. Lately, I’ve been working a lot, sometimes not even leaving the house except for a walk outside, or to go to Pure Barre. Yesterday, I went to Sephora and Whole Foods, and this is what I wore.
I do get dressed every day; I never get up and stay in my pajamas. Most of the time it’s a dress (like this Lanston boyfriend one I have in gray that I’ve been wearing at home), or sweatpants and a t-shirt. If I’m going to THE MALL, or out shopping, I’ll wear something interesting, and use that as an opportunity to “dress up,” but I haven’t been doing a lot of that lately, because I’m trying to avoid temptation as much as possible, focusing on what I have, and enjoying being at home, working and learning more.
What you see is what you get here, it always has been, but sometimes I’ll admit, I “dress up” a bit more because I’m going to be taking a photo of my outfit than I normally would. Everything I photograph I’m actually wearing, but if I wasn’t photographing it, I probably would just be wearing what you see here. Not all the time; because I do use going out – yes, even to Costco – as an opportunity to get dressed, and wear what I feel like, no matter how out of place I might feel in a sea of running shorts, flip flops and leggings.
So what is it that bothers me? Lots of things, really, but mostly it’s that I have SO MUCH, that I can’t possibly wear it all. This morning as I was getting ready for Pure Barre, I was looking for a long sleeve top to wear over my tank & leggings, and just randomly pulled out this James Perse top. I put it on and sighed loudly because I love it SO MUCH. It’s a beautiful t-shirt, so flattering, and really just wonderful – I love the way it looks on me. But I haven’t worn it. Well, I did wear it twice, once in San Francisco, and once at home, and I’ve had it for a couple months. I didn’t wear it to Pure Barre because I feel like it’s too special for that, and I didn’t want to get it sweaty by putting it on afterwards.
Here’s the thing – sometimes I treat my clothing, shoes, bags, whatever I love, as pieces to own, and look at, and admire, instead of things to be WORN; sort of like they’re art, or too special for my casual lifestyle. Which is interesting, because I buy things that feel special to me, but that I also know I can WEAR, that are high quality, and that I will have for a long time.
What’s the big deal then? My struggle is with having things I don’t wear. I get very frustrated with myself for having so much, and not wearing it. So…
What will I do about it?
1. As Janice posits,
what’s the worst thing that can happen if I DO wear my favorite pieces more often? I’m the best dressed person at Costco? So what? Does anyone even notice? I get dressed for myself.
2. Stop buying new things so I can wear and enjoy what I already have
3. Wear the things I love more often – I’m going to have to work harder at this; separating out the things I love but don’t wear, and making myself wear them. A challenge. You know how I love those…
4. Don’t beat myself up about it –
I have to learn to be okay with NOT wearing everything I have a million times or feeling like I’ve failed somehow.
Ultimately, I WILL find a balance between my love of shopping and my desire for an EXTREMELY well-curated and minimal wardrobe. It will probably take many more years, and quite a lot of discipline, but I will get there. It’s important to me. I no longer want to feel overwhelmed when I look in my closet by all the beautiful things I own and don’t wear. I know…first world problems…and that makes me feel guilty too, but all this stuff is stifling me, honestly. I want the freedom that comes from simplicity. I crave that.
This certainly doesn’t mean that I won’t keep shopping, or writing about shopping and getting dressed – I love it too much – but I will be much more careful about what I add and why.
Do you wear most of your clothes? Do you wear your favorite clothes? Is your lifestyle such that you have a lot of things in your closet you love but don’t wear? how do you reconcile that?