I was going to call this post “no more fucks” but decided against using that word in the title. I really try hard not to over-use profanity here because I KNOW who reads my posts…but if I’m being honest, the f-word is a word I use frequently in real life. I sort of love it.
Anyway, I touched on this in my instagram post about my new Elizabeth Suzann mules last week, but finally, I have no more fucks to give with regard to my wardrobe. This is my body. I may lose or gain weight, but in general my body shape is going to stay the same. I have wide calves, a small-ish waist, wide hips, flabby upper arms, and a very short inseam. Dressing this body has taken an emotional toll on me my whole life thus far, and I just can’t continue to let it be SO HARD for the rest of it.
So, that’s it. I could nitpick about everything I wear or buy or keep, focusing on how each item makes my calves look leaner or my hips look smaller, or hides my upper arms, or I could wear what makes me feel comfortable and stop giving a …..
You know me anyway, and I have always trended more towards comfort, away from what is traditionally “flattering” for my body shape, but I still have my moments. Especially with denim. I have found a couple of pairs of jeans (100% cotton Chimala and 6397 Shorty) that fit me beautifully and that I’m really happy with, but I LOVE DENIM SO MUCH and am always on the lookout for more great pairs that fit me like I want them to.
Recently as I was going through my jeans to re-evaluate fit and see if there’s anything I can get rid of, I tried everything on and found that my beloved 6397 Shorty jeans (not the 100% cotton pair) are just too snug on my calves now. Maybe they have always been, and I just didn’t care as much, but now, I do, and I’d rather have more jeans that aren’t snug on my calves than ANY that are. So I’ve been looking for a new pair of jeans to replace them.
When I first spotted this pair by Rag & Bone I knew I’d try them eventually; I have always loved the crossover waistband look that R13 does, and that I’ve even done with jeans that are too big in the waist. These are also 100% cotton – a must for me now – and with some slight distressing, which I always appreciate. AND they’re a straighter leg, with an undone hem – both pluses (I will probably cut the hem eventually, I’m just wearing them in a bit more first).
I have some credits at Shopbop (I earn credits there for displaying their widget in my sidebar) that I’ve been saving up, so I decided to take the plunge and order these to try. And they’re great. Really great. They DO NOT CLING TO MY CALVES at all, which is the most important fit qualification for me now. They are a bit large in the waist/hip area, but they sit nicely lower on my waist that way, which is very comfortable. I went with my “normal” size 29 and they’ve definitely stretched with wear, but not so much I’d want to size down. If you have thinner legs, then I would absolutely size down, but for me, my regular size is the right size for me.
My legs are thick and muscular, which makes them remarkably strong. And now, finally, I wouldn’t want to trade my strong, thick legs just to be able to fit into more denim styles. I know that I’m more comfortable and happier fitting jeans to my calves first, and worrying about the rest later. So what if they’re a little baggy at the crotch or big at the waist? This is my body and it’s beautiful and strong the way it is. (it just did TWO Pure Barre classes back to back for fuck’s sake!!)
We are all stronger than we think.