Rag & Bone Nadine skirt | size 10 (purchased with credits I earn at Shopbop)
James Perse slub crew neck tee | size 2 (burgundy version for sale at SLOWRE)
No6 Clogs wedges* | mine are several years old, newer version on a higher wedge
I’m going to be honest here (haha! what else is new?) and tell you I’m really frustrated this morning. Since I took and looked at these pictures last night, I’ve been questioning my decision to buy/keep this skirt. And it’s because of my legs. I don’t like to look at them.
But man, I love this skirt, and have worn it already 3 times since getting it back from the tailor late last week. So, I think the only thing I can do at this point is just keep wearing the skirt and tell that stupid voice in my head that keeps giving me all sorts of reasons I shouldn’t show my legs to shut it. Damn that voice! It keeps trying to convince me I should just stick to wearing pants and/or long skirts, and forget about anything that shows my legs, because, I mean, look at them!!
(and adding to that, I received my Zady order and tried on the silk shirt dress this morning – I was SO EXCITED about this – and it’s too small in the hips. UGH. I’m really really disappointed because it’s a great dress, good length for me, and seems well made, but even the large would probably JUST barely fit my hips. And even though I know I should sell it immediately and forget about it, I’m also half convinced that if I just lose weight, maybe it will fit by next spring/summer. Story of my life…just lose more weight, and then…)
Anyway, I had this skirt tailored in the waist and a little down the back to bring it in a bit since I had to size up to a 10 to fit my hips. It’s been awhile since I bought a denim skirt, but I should have remembered that they’re not easy for me to fit into; I have to either wear them really low on my hips or get them tailored in the waist to avoid the inches-wide gap there. I still have a waist gap in this skirt, but it’s smaller than it used to be. And quite frankly, it’s a challenge to style, because it really doesn’t work for me with anything untucked, or with anything over it. The way Shopbop styled it? no way that works on me, it would drown me – I have to show my waist.
This is exactly how I’ve worn it so far, with this t-shirt, tucked, and once with my Vince sneakers and then with my Birkenstock Arizona sandals. I also like it very much with my Everlane cropped cashmere sweater, and it works with my cropped Acne sweatshirt, but that’s about it.
NBD because I’ll wear it – I want to wear it – a lot between now and really cold weather. It’s such a unique skirt, and very well made (in the US). And I LOVE the tie-waist style without actually having to tie something around my waist (which I used to do all the time anyway…). The pockets are awesome, obviously, but they definitely stick out from my hips when I don’t have my hands in them. Before I cut the pockets open they did not stick out though.
I do not regret keeping this skirt, and I WILL wear it, negative voices in my head be damned. They have been getting quieter, but lately, as I try to acquire more things I LOVE vs. only things that are practical (and black) or “flattering” for me, they are more frequent. I think I’ll try countering them by talking to myself, and telling myself the truth: that I am beautiful, my legs are beautiful, and I can wear what I want.
I almost deleted all of the above and just left you with my thoughts on the skirt, emotion-less and without all of extra self-image baggage. But I couldn’t; I’m not the type of blogger who can just wear things and not talk about how I FEEL in them, which sometimes leads to my giving voice to my insecurities and body image issues. And I’m not sorry for that.
*I’m pretty sure these are going up in SLOWRE sometime very soon…I don’t give them as much love as they deserve.