Goldsign Glam skinny jeans | purchased with my credits from Shopbop
Splendid 1×1 t-shirt
Vince Blair haircalf sneakers | link goes to the Berlin style, mine are more than a year old
Inhabit Cashmere turtleneck | very, very old
I know…I used the “p” word, and I don’t believe in “perfect,” but when you’re spending more than $250 on a pair of jeans, they damn well better be as close to perfect as they can get. And I wanted these Goldsign jeans to be it, I really really really wanted them to be it, but they’re not.
I tried really hard, actually. On Friday when I first received them, I rushed to put them on and could not button them. I had to do that thing where you lie down on the bed and wiggle around for a while to zip them up? You know what I mean? But they zipped, and then I did some squats in them, and proceeded to wear them around the house for a bit to see how they fit after.
They definitely fit better with some wear, but they were still snug, especially in the thighs. In case you haven’t noticed, or I haven’t said it enough, I have “substantial” legs. Usually my calf area is the hardest to fit, but with these it was the thighs. They fit beautifully over my calves, which is impossible to find, and which is also why I really thought I could make these work…or I wanted these to work.
But because they were tight at the thigh, they didn’t fit right at the crotch, and every time I would sit and then get up, or walk around, they would start falling down and I’d have to pull them back up again. And they gave me a little muffin top.
BUT THE CALVES!!! They fit my calves. They sucked everything in (I like my jeans TIGHT!) And the denim is exquisite. They’re the combination of cotton/stretch (98/2%) that I love, and the wash is exactly what I wanted, and the 26 inch inseam is exactly right for my short legs. But….
I almost decided to keep them. I kept putting them on and taking them off again, trying to convince myself I could make them work. I could bear with having to pull them up every time I moved, I could bear with the pulling in the thighs, I could bear with the muffin top, what if I lost more weight? Would they fit then? Should I just hold on to them? UGH. I started falling down THAT trap, and had to pull myself back up. What have I been trying to do the last few months? Why would I settle for a pair of jeans that don’t really fit me like they should?
Still, I got sucked into the idea that I’m never going to be able to find a pair of jeans that fit me well, so I will HAVE to settle. Right now, I’m wearing my !iT Collective jeans they sent to me a year or so ago, and they’re good, but much too stretchy for my preferences, and as my body has changed even more the last couple of months, they’re saggy in the seat, and don’t fit me like I want them to. I wear them, because they work, and they’re “good enough” – but I do want to find something better to replace them.
I love the way these look on me, but they’re not the right jeans for me. End of story. They’re ALMOST the right jeans for me, but not quite, so I’ll keep trying. I won’t settle for something less than “perfect” in this instance. And “perfect” right now, means jeans that fit in my waist, hips, calves & thighs. I’m going to try the Goldsign Virtual style next, which has a higher rise, but not the wash I want, and then keep cycling through to find jeans that work. I believe Goldsign holds the most promise, as I’ve had 4 pairs of Goldsign jeans in the past and have always been most impressed with the quality; they’re well worth the full price since I’ve had my oldest pair for 10 years now (they’re shorts now, but still…).
In conclusion, the jeans are on their way back to Shopbop. Even though I don’t believe in perfect, I also don’t think we should settle for “less than” – whatever that means for us. I almost did that. I almost said essentially that I didn’t “deserve” any better, and I should go ahead and just stick with these, because they’re pretty close to what I want.
But no. I’m not going to do that anymore.
How do you determine what’s good enough and what’s not? What’s close enough to work for you? Have you ever kept something that was close-but-not-quite perfect?