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I’m a firm believer that when someone gives you a compliment, you should smile & say “thank you.” That doesn’t mean I always do it, however. Last night Elissa complimented me on my hair (it was pulled back,like you see above), and I started in on this dissertation about how my bangs are too long, I don’t know what to do with it, I think my face looks fatter when my hair is up…you name it, I said it.
I hate it when people do that.
Anyway, I know receiving compliments is an issue for a lot of women (men don’t have this problem AT ALL), as it obviously is for me sometimes. If someone let’s me know she loves my shoes, or my bag, I always say “thank you” because I know how awesome they are. But if it’s more along the lines of “you look great!” it’s harder to accept the compliment. How RIDICULOUS is that? Really. My SHOES and my BAG are awesome, but I’m not? That’s crazy, that BS has to stop. I’m way more awesome than the things I wear (although they definitely enhance my awesome-ness ;)). And so are you.
How do you handle compliments? do you struggle with just saying “thank you?”
Have a good weekend!!!
I do the same thing you do but worse – when someone compliments something I am wearing, I automatically say, “THANKS IT COST [x] DOLLARS” if whatever it is I bought on sale. How obnoxious is that? By the way – I love this look. I wish I could do maxis but I cannot.
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Love this outfit! My mom always said that it was an insult to the compliment-giver if you deflect it, or say something like “oh, this old thing” because you’re basically telling them they have poor taste. I try to remember this and just say “thank you” instead of convincing them that they are wrong – but it is definitely something with which I struggle.
I am guilty of doing the same! I, too, HATE it when people do that when I give them a compliment – so why do I do it!? Ugh!
This happens a lot where I work considering I work with all women with the exception of one man. We’re constantly handing out compliments and constantly getting the “ugh” face and reaction in return. To counteract this terrible habit, we force each other to say “thank you” in return and I think it is finally starting to take hold! One of these days we might actually start to believe it, I suppose. 🙂
Love this dress!
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that maxi is fabulous!!! love how you styled it
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I don’t know why we women do it, but we certainly do tend to be self-deprecating. I’m working on it because I’ve been called on it by my older girls and my husband, and they have a point. I’m raising 3 daughters to be strong, brave, talented women, so how can I put myself down if I’m to be a good role model for them? I commend you for this post, Grechen. It’s very honest and you’ve made us all examine ourselves more closely. Thanks! (and I mean it!)
good post! so true, you’re right. and you look cute!
Well, you do look particularly good in that outfit. So that means, when I compliment you, I’m complimenting your looks AND your ability to suit yourself with your style:).
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