Girlfriend Collective leggings – use my referral link for $10 off 🙂
Charley Harper tee from the Chattahoochee Nature Center
Birkenstock Arizona sandals
Just in case you were worried – We’re back and all is well. We had an amazing time visiting family and looking for houses in the Atlanta area. Hawk was a trooper for a 14-hour car ride in the age of COVID (we divided it into two days, don’t worry…) and was so happy to see his grandmother.
I just spent the better part of an hour deleting and unsubscribing to all marketing emails. And I’m about to quit Instagram for good. I keep it on my phone because of Slowre, or so I say, although I do enjoy the mindless scroll during parts of my day. But Instagram, more than anything, makes me want to shop. And buy. I get caught up in “oh! That is so cute on her!!” and before you know it, I’m adding to cart.
I’ve resisted unsubscribing and quitting Instagram for years because my “job” sort of relies on staying up to date, or it did anyway. I’m not sure if it does anymore. I’m also in the state of mind lately to ease my anxiety, frustration, loneliness, etc., with shopping and buying, justifying it by needing to dress my new body and lifestyle. Honestly though, I could have stopped that a while ago; I have been buying (and selling) nonstop. I just got overwhelmed today and took extreme measures haha:
I got an email, saw some light denim pants (which are now sold out) that were VERY intriguing, did a little research on them, thought about it for a few hours, then bought the pants. Even though I was intending to spend that money on a wool Babaa sweater.
If I hadn’t received the email I never would have known about the pants. Hence all the unsubscribing. All the push marketing is making me tired and feel overwhelmed. Especially given my fragile state of mind. Hawk challenges me all day? Buy nail polish. Missing social interaction? Add to cart. Anxious about being a mom? SWEATERS!!!
This is nothing new for me. And some of you probably deal with similar feelings. I buy things to make up for not being able to change or “fix” certain things about my day-to-day life. Of course I KNOW buying stuff isn’t a fix, but it definitely feels like it in the moment. And then when the stuff arrives. And then when I use it or wear it.
Anyway, I have been wearing leggings a lot lately, and ordered a couple more pairs of Girlfriend Collective leggings: the Float (seamless) pair and a pair with pockets. I don’t love either of them as much as the classic high-rise compressive leggings. I CONSTANTLY have to pull the seamless pair up, which drives me nearly insane. And the pocket pair is fine, but they just don’t fit exactly right either. They’re in rotation with my two other “classic” pairs, but I wouldn’t necessarily recommend them as highly as those. I can go ON AND ON AND ON about my Girlfriend collective leggings – they are perfect. I’ve been wearing Girlfriend since they gave pairs away in the VERY beginning.
Gotta run and work on some stuff for slowre I’m trying to get up tomorrow. And then Hawk wakes up in 15 minutes!!
I hope you are all well!!!!!
Oh baby, I so hear you and you are not alone! Instagram really can feel like such a bad friend/enabler, which everyone posting cute pieces and raving about them until I talk myself into thinking I too have to have whatever it is. I’ve been TERRIBLE lately with the stress shopping. The worst was the evening of the last debate. It was so upsetting that I left my husband watching it in the bedroom, went on the internet and ordered 2 pairs of jeans, a pair of striped Perfect Pants and a shirt from State, and a corduroy chore coat (none of which I needed) before stopping myself. I also bought a whole new set of drinking glasses even though we already have enough. I could go on. And this was after months and months of honing my possessions and being SO abstemious. And now there’s another debate tonight. Oi. I think I’ll go for a jog instead of watching it. Oh well. Having said that, I think you’re doing a great job, nurturing that adorable little Hawk, keeping up your business, and so generously sharing your thoughts and experience. Thank you for that. I always look forward to your posts.
Stay safe and well!
Grechen Reiter says
Oh!! I also want a pair of perfect pants lolol. I’m waiting for a black pair though…
Ugh. Trying times indeed. I was going to watch the debate but I don’t think I can tonight. Maybe while working.
Glad you are home safely and had a good trip! It is no small feat to travel with a little one and throw a pandemic on top of it, you must be wiped out. I recently ordered the girlfriend high waisted bike short and love them. I use them to ride the Peloton and as well as for yoga and they, along with the Pandora bra, are so comfortable and fit really well. Thanks for the feedback on the leggings. I was looking at ordering a pair of the original high waisted compression leggings but they never seem to be in stock. I too, have been unsubscribing from marketing emails. I quit facebook a few months ago and don’t miss it at all. I want to do the same with IG, but I’m having a harder time for some reason. As I look at turning 50 in December, I am re-evaluating/taking stock on so many levels. I am appalled at how much time I can waste on IG when I would much rather be reading, walking my dogs, writing a letter, cooking something…so many things that get waylaid by the internet. And yes, the buying/selling/purging/buying cycle has become all too familiar with me as well. Especially in these stressful times. I do feel grateful to you for sharing about ethical and conscious brands. I have been able lately to slow down and focus more on being intentional about purchasing items and how they will fit in with my wardrobe. Thank you! ??
Leah Wise says
I unfollowed a whole bunch of people on Instagram and now only follow a few thrifters, a smattering of bloggers I actually talk to sometimes, and people I know in real life. I don’t even follow brands I work with anymore, because I don’t use Instagram for monetized work. But did you see that, just tonight, they put a shopping button where the notifications used to be? It’s like you foresaw it.
Grechen Reiter says
WHOA. i don’t see it though?
social media knows what it does to people – it only makes sense they’d try to make it as easy as possible to shop right in the apps.
leo and i started watching the “social dilemma” documentary; i’m looking forward to finishing it…
I’m always thrilled to see posts from you! I’m glad you and your family continue to be well. I did miss the Hawk picture though! Please don’t be so hard on yourself. If you have a beloved legging, order 5 pairs no matter what the cost and make it into a uniform. Mothering is the hardest job. Reading the same book OVER AND OVER AND OVER again, tending to every need… I remember how demanding those days were. Be comfortable. Treat yourself. Be kind to yourself. Spoil yourself. Make the seemingly insignificant accomplishments a huge, f…..g deal!
BTW you look fantastic!
You look great!
I’m finding that the pandemic has made me much less likely to be interested in people marketing stuff to me on Instagram. Between the uncertainty of life right now and a priorities shift, I just don’t miss it.
I totally agree with you mamavalveeta03:)