Since I’ve been working towards cleaning out and minimizing my wardrobe, I’ve started reading a lot more blogs and message boards. Besides noting that a lot of us talk about and struggle with the same issues, I also see that there’s a WHOLE lot of serious-ness around fashion and dressing oneself out there on the blogosphere. Sometimes I feel like a lot of bloggers and/or commenters focus too much on “perfection,” uniforms, and dressing for one’s body type, even creating issues where there really aren’t any, while neglecting our innate desire (well, mine anyway) to experiment with fashion.
I have been guilty of focusing too much on perfection and “rules” for the types of clothing I should own (no stripes, haha!) at some point or another, I know, but I’ve made the decision to put all of that behind me. There’s no such thing as perfect, and even though I’m committed to having a smaller wardrobe, I’m not playing by any hard and fast rules, and although, yes, I do consider myself a shopaholic, I also don’t WANT to avoid shopping or buying new things for my closet, I just want to do it more thoughtfully.
Overall, my biggest “issue” is my all-or-nothing attitude. Too often, I overwhelm myself by planning out how I’m going to do something, so it will be “perfect,” and then have an anxiety attack at the last minute because it’s not. Of course it’s not! Then, I go to the opposite extreme and give up (I have done this with diets, and shopping “bans”).
I’ve found with a lot of “minimal” wardrobe blogs that there is an all-or-nothing attitude about shopping and clothing that I just can’t get behind. I need to overcome my need for perfection and understand that THERE IS NO SUCH THING as the perfect wardrobe; I’m not going to do exercises to determine how to create it, and then get down to an ideal number of items.
If you’re not like me, then I’m sure these exercises will be wonderful for you – a good learning tool – but if you are like me: over-analytical, anxious, and easily overwhelmed by trying to do “the right/perfect thing” all the time, then I would say to take it slow, and find your own way through to a smaller closet and a wardrobe you love.
I have NEVER made “fun” a priority in my life – in fact, a lot of the time, I try and avoid it. But I think now that I’m almost 42, it’s time for some fun. And honestly, the way I do it most often now, is with my clothing choices. (baby steps!!) I wear traditionally “unflattering” silhouettes because I like them, I feel good in them, and find them “fun.” I buy two-tone Birkenstocks because they’re fun (haha! true, though!), and wear harem pants and shapeless dresses because they make me feel free.
So what if nobody likes them? so what if I look 25 pounds heavier? or shorter, or my legs look stumpy when I wear flats? I’ve never tried to position myself as an expert at dressing for my body type, or even at dressing at all! I wear what I wear, post it here, and if you love it, great, if you don’t, also great. If I inspire you to try something new and different, then even better. But I’m not trying to tell anyone what they should wear, or how they should wear it because goodness knows I barely know how to dress myself!
There’s so much information and knowledge out there; it can be a lot to take in. It’s all helpful and valuable too, but only if you don’t take it TOO SERIOUSLY. Adapt it and make it your own. Figure out how to work advice you read into your life so that you can create lasting change (it took me a long time to learn to do this…). And most of all, remember to have fun.
Happy Friday!! How do you have fun with your clothes?
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