James Perse casual tee (size 1 – made in the US)
James Perse heavy fleece skirt | few years old, no longer available
James Perse mini canvas tote
Everlane cashmere cardigan | several years old, no longer available
Vince Blair haircalf sneakers | 4 years old, no longer available
Well, I made it through Cyber Monday without buying anything, did you?
It’s not for lack of trying, I had James Perse open and the oversized shirt dress in my cart. And La Garconne – I was seconds away from getting another pair of 6397 short jeans, in black, 100% cotton. Finally, I mentioned that I placed a Rodale’s order last week, but I didn’t, and was going to yesterday, but still didn’t.
It’s a constant struggle, buying vs. not buying, but I’m usually glad when I choose not. I’m not of the opinion that “nothing haunts us like the things we didn’t buy.” For me, now, it’s the things I bought that “haunt” me; the money I could have spent on something else, the experience I could have had instead of the THING. There’s always something else to buy, and even though I know a good deal when I see one, there’s always another deal around the corner. Right now, I just don’t WANT to buy anything. Nor do I need anything. I WANT things, but I don’t want to buy them. I don’t even want things I don’t have to pay for. And I don’t want to want them. It’s a weird feeling, still rather unfamiliar to me.
About the outfit – and not buying – though. I always think I’m going to wear more skirts/dresses in cooler weather, and I’d been wanting a long sleeve pullover dress (the James Perse one I’ve mentioned a million times) to wear with tights, or leggings, or jeans, or by itself, for just that reason.
I might have previously mentioned my strategy for buying new things : if I’m shopping in person, I wear the thing I’m trying to replace while shopping, and if I find a better version, I buy it, if not, I don’t buy anything. More often than not, I don’t find anything better than what I already have, or while wearing the thing, I realize that I don’t need to replace it, or I don’t need a similar thing. That’s sort of what I did yesterday with this outfit – I wanted to determine if I could wear a dress, like the JP oversized shirt dress in this weather, or if I should pass on it once and for all.
They’re not the same, this skirt I’m wearing and the dress I want, but while I wore it, I was paying close attention to how I felt in it, and if I could imagine myself wearing the dress instead. And then, I was reminded of one very big reason I don’t wear shorter skirts or dresses this time of year: the wind.
It’s very windy here now, and if I’d worn the JP dress, I would have been messing with it trying to keep it down all day. That’s also why I’ve stopped buying/wearing dresses/skirts that aren’t fitted to the knee. And why I didn’t get to take my outfit picture outside. Point taken, and shopping cart abandoned.
Anyway, that’s my weird strategy, and so far it’s working for me.
Do you do something similar? How do you talk yourself out of buying something you want, but really don’t need?