Mark & Estel dress (trying to wear things I’m on the fence about keeping…)
Gap belt (thanks to Sharon)
Balenciaga bag (secondhand from MOSS)
Since yesterday’s experiment worked so well, I decided again today to choose an outfit and not allow myself to change once I put it on. Also, I’m trying to wear things I’m not sure if I should keep or not, and this dress is on the list. First, not letting myself change clothes is so liberating; I feel in control finally – I think I’ll do this everyday. Second, I’m keeping this dress. In spite of the fact that you can see my KNEES when I wear it, it’s comfortable, easy and looks okay on me.
Following on the heels of yesterday’s discussion on body image, I kept thinking today that this outfit would look so much cuter on someone else – someone with smaller calves, who’s taller, maybe a bit more busty. Of course I would think that. I always think that. But when I met Amy today for her to try on the Current/Eliot boyfriend jeans, she complimented my outfit and mentioned how nice I looked, and “put-together.” But she also said about her outfits or outfits she likes, that she sometimes feels they’d look cuter on other people. To which I said that I thought the EXACT same thing about this outfit!
We already know this, but we are our own WORST critics. We think we look horrible, or focus on our more “challenging” body parts, while the people around us see the whole package, and are never as critical as we are of our own bodies. The problem is, what is the “truth?” What do I really look like? I know I look like the person I see in the mirror, but it’s my perception and interpretation of that image that wreaks havoc on my self-esteem. But I think this process I’ve started of getting dressed and not changing is going to help a lot with getting my brain back on the right track. I KNOW I’m choosing outfits that I’m comfortable in, and fit me well, so I can’t look THAT bad…can I? I just need to trust myself and move on.
Have you ever thought that about your outfits? That they would look “so much cuter on someone else”?