There is no such thing as perfect. But there is VERY CLOSE to perfect. And there’s the BEST I CAN GET RIGHT NOW. Sometimes it’s possible to find a very good substitute for the “perfect” thing – something we can be very happy with and even allow us to move on and forget about the other thing. Other times (more often for me) we search and search for the cheaper “holy grail” item, wasting time, and inevitably money, trying to find it and not.
I have learned this lesson by now, but still have a very hard time implementing it. I have come to terms with the fact that I have very particular tastes and ideas about the shapes and silhouettes I prefer, and as I may have mentioned before, they are usually NOT conventional or traditional in any way, and therefore harder to find done “right” and according to my standards*.
More on this next week in a new The Minimal Closet post, with some shopping strategies to deal with this little quirk I have (and maybe you do too), but as “research” I ran a couple of experiments this week on “holy grail” items to see what would happen if I did finally get THE thing I wanted:
- This ACNE Bird sweatshirt. I’ve been fixated on this style for a long time, but couldn’t convince myself it was worth it, or that it would work for me. I tried similar sweatshirts and/or cropped sweaters that were never right for me, so I decided to try this one when I saw La Garconne was offering 30% off, knowing that I could return if it didn’t work. As you can see, I ended up really happy with it. I LOVE IT. And it’s exactly what I’d hoped it would be. EXACTLY. Nicely cropped for me, easy to wear, goes with everything, etc., etc.,
- The ACNE calla merino sweater. I tried on an ACNE merino sweater early in the fall at Steven Alan and fell hard for it. It was beautiful, fit so nicely, and I knew it would be a staple in my wardrobe. But I never bought it because I didn’t want to spend the money. It only went on sale recently, having sold out at Shopbop before I could get it, and by then, was hard to find in my size. So, when I had enough credits at Shopbop to purchase the v-neck version in a lighter color, I just did it (it hurt, a lot, because there was NO DISCOUNT, even though I had credits…I know…poor me…), and am very happy I did.
So far, I’m two for two that the things I really wanted turned out to be the “right” things. It doesn’t always work out like that though, which I’m sure I’ll see if I start sticking to a more strict shopping strategy going forward.
How do you treat holy grail items? do you spend time & money trying to find the perfect cheaper substitutes? Do you end up finding pieces that you’re happy with so you can move on from your holy grail piece? Or do you still feel like you’re “missing” something, and keep searching and buying?
*I feel very comfortable with ACNE Studios’ qualifications as a company I’m happy to buy from: they are smaller, independent, focused on design & quality for the consumer, and have very well thought out and articulated corporate labor & environmental strategies.