I’ve talked about this quite a bit, but I’m interested to know your take: what do you wear that your significant other/friends/kids/co-workers don’t understand? What do you wear and love that others hate?
Honestly, my husband doesn’t like much I wear; he is much more “traditional” and conservative in dress than I am, and not concerned at all with “fashion,” or what’s trendy, as he calls it (I call it “modern”). Oftentimes he feels like I’m being provocative in my clothing choices, like I’m trying to make a statement (a negative one) and draw attention to myself. That’s not what I’m doing, by any means – I just wear what I want, what is comfortable for me (both physically and sartorially) and what I think is “modern” and interesting right now.
But I can understand why someone might think that. It’s the same idea we get when we see teenagers who are decked out in full goth regalia, or wearing too much makeup, dressed in oversized clothes, and we think they are lashing out for attention and/or trying to hide themselves.
I’m certain there’s part of that in teenage dress, a sense of rebellion, but at this point in my life, I’m not interested in either standing out, or hiding myself. I do not try to fit in with my dress – I just can’t. I’ve done that, or tried to do it anyway, and it didn’t work very well for me, I just NEVER fit in. I am drawn to certain things over others, and wear what I want, it’s as simple as that.
I am still reminded of voices from my youth, people directing me that I should wear other things, things that are more flattering for my short, stubby legs and narrow waist, i.e. things that make me look tall and skinny, something I am NOT. Sometimes those voices are real, comments here, or from people in my life who think I should dress to make myself look my “best.” Whatever that is.
I ignore them, now. I hear them, of course, but dismiss them as quickly as I can (some faster than others!), and move on.
But I’m interested in what makes people react so negatively to unconventional silhouettes. It’s just a matter of taste I guess. I also feel like sometimes it’s jealousy; a perception that others can “pull off” what one cannot. It could be just a genuine concern that the person wearing a caftan or harem pants just doesn’t look that good. Again, that’s completely subjective, though. A matter of taste: one of my most commented/liked posts/instagrams was my Emerson Fry linen caftan, which is gigantic, and not at all conventionally “flattering” and all of the comments were positive.
I find all of this fascinating. I’ve become much more tolerant in my older age of others sartorial choices, but perhaps that’s mostly because mine are so out there, and you know, karma…
What do you think? How do you deal with people who don’t “understand” what you’re wearing, or why you’re wearing it? Do you get negative reactions from loved ones about your wardrobe? What do you think of “flattering”? What is your favorite thing to wear that others hate?