totally random picture, but I don’t have an outfit to share today yet, and I’ve really been enjoying this drawing my mother did of a bird a friend took a photo of during their African safari trip a couple years ago…
I finished watching the OA recently. Worth watching, but SO WEIRD. I laughed out loud during the “dance” scenes because they were so strange (the choreographer works also with Sia, which explained the strangeness). Now, I’m catching up on the newest season of Mozart in the Jungle.
I am reading Red Rising, which I enjoy, now that I’m into it, have Designing Your Life on tap, and am busy adding EVERY SINGLE book on Frances’ (Materfamilias) 2016 reading list to MY reading list. So excited about some of those books, especially the birder mystery books (LOL), although those will be harder to track down.
Lisa from Privilege is graciously bowing out of regular lifestyle blogging and her post about why, and what she is turning to now, is worth a read. And not only because she mentions Grechen’s Closet as a familiar cohort, which I am beyond honored to be considered. I can’t wait to follow Lisa’s writings elsewhere; it feels right for her to do what she’s doing, and I support her wholeheartedly.
Disneyrollergirl mentioned my book review of her The New Garconne book in a post this week, along with featuring the new Everlane modern penny loafer (this cognac color is so pretty) as a Garconne-approved shoe. Did anyone order/receive the penny loafer? I think it’s a beautiful shoe, but I’ve not been able to make Everlane’s shoes work for me (too narrow), and am honestly more drawn to a classic rounded toe, like the Bass weejun, now anyway.
I went to “the mall” yesterday, something I don’t do very often, but now, want to do more. Every time I go, I inevitably come away inspired by the women I see there. Women just walking around, shopping, talking to friends. But I always draw my inspiration from a specific type of woman: the Eileen Fisher woman, if you will. Not exactly, but just to give you a picture of the type of look I’m referring to.
Yesterday as I was walking into Nordstrom I watched a beautiful, gray/silver-haired (a little longer than shoulder length) woman walking to her car with a friend. She was wearing a long black flowy skirt – simple – a midi-length mustard, leaning-towards-orange open coat and suede stretchy low wedges (either Eileen Fisher, or my Robert Clergerie Nalo wedges) with short gray socks. It was the socks that struck me, because they were at once practical, and chic – in that “my feet were cold so I threw socks on with these shoes.” It felt to me that that was her motivation, not to be “stylish” – which I find so appealing.
Of course, I have no idea what she was thinking. She could have spent as long working on an outfit as I do, overthinking it to death, and then finally settling on something that just felt right, but I doubt it. I don’t know why, but I just do. She seemed so effortless, and comfortable, I thought about her all day. First, I became obsessed, again, with finding a good long black skirt that is NOT fitted (something which I’ve tried and failed at consistently), and second, I wondered if I would ever be able to achieve the elusive “effortless” style.
I actually don’t think “effortless” style is so effortless; it takes a lot of work. And truthfully, my wardrobe is built for effortless style, filled with things I love and always want to wear, and everything works well together. I have only to pull a few things out to make an outfit, and go. My problem tends to be that I don’t go “out” often, aside from running errands to Whole Foods, Target, and Costco, so when I do go somewhere more interesting, I feel pressured to wear all the things.
That’s probably really hard to understand if you don’t work from home, have kids, or don’t have a lot of time to mess around with getting dressed, but that is my constant struggle. I’ve often thought the “solution” is to go out to more interesting places more often – every day – so I get used to wearing more things, more often, but I can’t seem to make my schedule work for that. Or, I could wear my harem pants to Costco, as it were, and dress up to do ordinary things.
In reality, nothing in my wardrobe is exceptional enough to NOT be worn to do ordinary things; I’ve actually designed it that way. I WANT to wear anything in my closet to do nearly anything, everything is versatile and useful. But we live in such a casual culture nowadays, in the US, and in the suburbs specifically, that wearing something more than leggings and running shoes often feels frivolous, and like I’m “peacocking” or something. If that makes sense.
I feel like I harp on this all the time, and struggle with it too much. But there it is…my reality. I am better overall at wearing what I like, when I like, now, but I wish it was a little easier to do without overanalyzing so much. Sigh.
Anyway, a couple of other notes about shopping in person.
I saw these Coclico shoes in the sale section at Neiman Marcus and they are stunning – and quite a steal for $138. I tried on my usual size 8/38 and they were too small, so I think it’s best to size up a half size or one full size. Coclico is a brand I’ve always wanted to try, but I’ve never found quite the right pair. They’re responsibly made in Spain, and I always forget that Neiman Marcus carries the brand, so I can try them in person.
Also at Neiman Marcus I saw a black nylon version of the Vince warren sneaker, something I didn’t know existed (unless it’s really satin?) and that I will probably purchase to replace my oldest Blair sneakers. I wore those old blair sneakers yesterday actually, and they’re about finished after four years or pretty constant wear. I’m wearing holes in the bottoms, and the heels are worn down. They suit me fine for wearing to and from Pure Barre, which I will continue to do – and am doing right now – but I’m about ready for a new black pair of slip-in sneakers. And as often as possible, I’m trying to not buy new leather. I also want to support more “mainstream” designers using non-leather materials for shoes & bags, so in some small way, this will do that. (I’m seeing more and more nylon bags and shoes from contemporary designers, which I appreciate).
Finally, as you must have surmised, I’m not perfect, and another side effect of shopping in person is impulse buying.
As I walked out of Nordstrom on way way into the mall, I spotted another pair of Vince shoes, the Tanner platform oxfords. I thought about them the ENTIRE afternoon, and as I was walking back in, I tried them on and bought them. They’re beautiful, and just what my wardrobe needs, I think. As if it needs anything. But they’re SO FUN, and add just a little something to whatever I might wear (yes, I already tried them on with EVERYTHING in my wardrobe), AND they provide some much-needed height with the platform, something I want now. I don’t want to wear heels, but I want more height. And anyway, I love platform shoes.
Finally – I ordered the Everlane cropped ponte pants in a size 8 to review for you. I don’t need them, and I probably won’t keep them, but I am interested to see how they fit. I was sort of looking forward to the new cotton button-down shirts, but now that I see them, I’m not excited. I was hoping for something straighter, not so boxy and oversized. I might finally be over that. And I’m just not excited at all about any of Everlane’s “coming soon” pieces. What do you think?
Happy Friday!! Any good plans for the weekend?