Did you know, way back in the day, my tagline used to be “it’s not you, it’s your closet”? Actually, that was my dad’s idea, but it fit. I was tired of feeling like my body was “wrong” somehow, and hearing other women proclaim the same, instead of blaming our CLOTHES and how they fit on us, for our sartorial struggles. It’s absolutely true: our bodies are perfect. I find it rather unbelievable to think that clothes, from any designer, should fit EXACTLY right, just off the rack, on everyone. How could they??
They can get close, and James Perse always does, for me. As does Elizabeth Suzann (when I find the right fit/piece), and sometimes, but rarely, Eileen Fisher. I stick with what works for my body, and alter if I need to. I want other things from my life, absolutely, but a main concern for me has always been that I have clothing/shoes/accessories in my wardrobe that I love, and that love me back (serve me well for as long as I need them to).
I was thinking about this yesterday as I wore this outfit out to meet a friend for lunch, and run to Home Depot/Post office. This dress, famously, only comes out a few times a year because it’s a heavier fleece, but yesterday was perfect for it, and I enjoyed wearing it. It made me feel like me; like I was happily gliding through my day both looking AND feeling like I wanted to. That, is all I ask of my clothes, and I have learned to be brutal about adding/subtracting things that don’t meet those requirements.
And now that I have slowre, I see that other women are doing the same, and I am so honored to be a very small part in that. I had an AMAZING consignment shipment come in yesterday from someone who feels like I do, that if the clothes don’t work for her, why hold on to them? Even if they’re Elizabeth Suzann or Jamie + The Jones, etc. Too often, I think we fall into the trap of really wanting something to work, even if it doesn’t, and then we feel “bad” that it doesn’t work for our bodies, or that we don’t like it, especially if it’s a popular brand. WTF?? WHY do we do that??? They’re just clothes, how can they fit, or work for everyone??
I would also argue that clothing is often like art. We dress ourselves in a way we’d like to project our personalities to the world, and that is never the same for two people. Art is subjective, and so is getting dressed. There are no rules, or standards for dressing (beyond decency IMO), and for many people it is THE WAY they choose to express themselves.
Getting dressed should be empowering, not belittling.
So, May your closet be full of the things you love and that love you back 🙂 *
Okay. Since it’s EVERYWHERE, should we talk about Everlane’s underwear (launching 3/26)? I appreciate that they’re using supima cotton grown in the US (it’s usually grown in Texas BTW), and the styles/shapes look pretty no-nonsense, but as usual, I don’t have high hopes about the fit. I am definitely going to try some pieces though, the tank bra, a pair of granny panties, and the body suit. Just to form my own opinion. Because you know there will be glowing, fangirl reviews abounding at launch time.
*not that I think it’s easy to get there; to a fulfilling closet. It’s taken me years of work and over-analysis to get where I am LOL
Did I mention I’m reading Sapiens? I am blown away by this book, truly, but have to read really slowly because I can’t read it at night because I forget what I’m reading haha. I devour it on the weekends though as much as I can. I highly recommend it. I will probably read it again after I’m finished, just to make sure I didn’t miss anything.
Not really watching anything special, just catching up on season 4 of Schitt’s Creek (I purchased it on Amazon, but I think older seasons are free on Netflix), which is quite possibly one of the best shows EVER. That is, if you like movies like Best in Show 🙂
I have been gradually washing and storing my “winter” sweaters this week. I’m trying to be better about storing them CLEAN in a sealed box with some cedar sachets so I don’t pull anything out next year with holes in them…
What have you bought lately? read? watched? What are you doing this weekend?