What I’m not wearing lately: A bra. Do you wear a bra all the time? I pretty consistently take my bra off when I’m “done” for the day, even if it’s relatively comfortable, I just prefer to change into “home” clothes, and that means comfortable lounge attire all the way. And since I’ve worn my new Ozma romper several times, and it’s layered at the bust, I don’t HAVE to wear a bra with it, so I don’t. I’m not quite ready to wear it out in public sans bra without a tank or tee underneath though, I think that just doesn’t work well in real life – when you’re sitting or eating with a friend, for example. Or if you have to bend over? whoa.
Why do we wear bras anyway? Some of us like the support. I wear one because I think I’m supposed to. And sometimes I appreciate the coverage; I have perky nipples whether I’m cold or not. But honestly, most of the bras I wear are bralettes, or thin cotton, so they don’t do much to alleviate that anyway. So what’s the point??
For me, I know I’ve been “trained” my whole life to believe I have to look a certain way to fit in, and a bra was just a given, and certainly expected once you start “developing boobies.” Bras provide shape, definitely, and perk the girls up, but I can’t help but also feel they’re just another way for us to encourage girls to hide their bodies, and they feed subtly (or not so much) into the idea that we should somehow be ashamed of what is happening to us at that age and cover it all up.
When I do wear a more “substantial” bra, with underwire and padding, I do notice a difference in how I look in my clothes, James Perse dresses specifically. I like the lifted look, and the definition a good bra gives, but man…even my go-to underwire Natori bra isn’t comfortable enough for me to want to wear it very often. My favorite bras right now are by Cosabella: this one and this one. They are comfortable as can be, but they do nothing for my shape. FYI, I’m a 36a or 34b but I find 36a more comfortable.
I think at this year’s nordstrom anniversary sale I’ll pick up a Spanx Bra-llelujah bra. I’ve tried it on a few times, and know lots of people who have one and find it really comfortable. It seems like it would give me the support I want sometimes and be more comfortable.
But ultimately, when I just don’t want to wear a bra, I don’t – Yesterday I wore my JP open back dress without a bra. It felt weird, but SO COMFORTABLE. Why do we feel like we should pad our breasts so much so that no one can possibly see that we have nipples? What is that?? It’s similar to working so hard to avoid VPL (visible panty line); why does it matter if it’s obvious that we’re wearing underwear?? Should we not wear underwear??
Haha…I’m starting to go all hippie as I head into my mid-late forties 🙂
I started re-watching Sex in the City for some reason. Then I saw something on Instagram, a comment, which was “What did we do before LaCroix??” And then, so funny, I think the same day, I was watching season 1 of Sex in the City and Carrie was drinking a Clearly Canadian. That’s what we did before LaCroix. Remember those?? I do. They certainly didn’t catch on like LaCroix has nowadays, but back then we were not really even drinking bottled water. It wasn’t a thing yet. Amazing.
And I was struck by how much color Carrie wore. The quintessential New Yorker, wearing ALL SORTS of color. It’s inspired me a little to keep branching out. I’m not going to say no automatically to color anymore…
How Georgia O’Keefe Styled her Iconic Self-Image – love this so much, and if I was going to NYC I would check out the exhibit that everyone seems to be talking about.
Stella McCartney, IKEA Find New Uses for Garbage, Plastic Bags – renewing my love for Stella McCartney (And the big blue IKEA bag – can’t wait to get a new grey one!). I have been stalking this bag by Stella McCartney, waiting for it to go on sale, but no luck so far, and I’m afraid I might miss out on it. I mean HOW ME IS THAT?? (and this skirt. Sigh.) I tried it on in the store and it is wonderful, holds more than you think, and is super easy to carry. I even tried a basic foldover Falabala bag, and the chain strap didn’t bother me as much as I thought it would. Those pop-up on The Real Real all the time, though, so with patience I think I’ll be able to snag one of those secondhand when I’m ready. I really want to support Stella McCartney, I love the work she’s doing for sustainability, but the prices…ugh…
Slowre is getting an overhaul this weekend, which is why there haven’t been any new arrivals this week. I’ve taken feedback from a survey I sent out this week (If you didn’t fill it out yet and want to, here’s the link) and will be implementing some suggestions. I want it to be easier to consign with slowre, and easier to buy from slowre, so all my changes will hopefully lead in that direction.
What are your plans for the weekend?
Oh, my step-son arrived last night, so it’s officially summer!!! 🙂