What I changed into yesterday since I couldn’t wear the Everlane tee:
So, here’s an update on my summer no-buy: it’s still in effect, but I’m not really following it. Haha. I know that doesn’t make sense, but for some reason in the back of my head, even though I HAVE bought things, and I’m actively trying to figure out what to order from Elizabeth Suzann (with the generous gift they sent me), I keep hearing a voice saying “but you don’t WANT anymore clothes…” and I’m grateful for it. I don’t want any more clothes.
And speaking of that, WTF was I thinking with those Kamm pants? I did wear them more that day, to work at home in the office, etc., and yeah, they’re GREAT for walking around and standing, and I loved getting a glimpse of my body in the mirror walking by, but sitting was a whole other story. I tried to ignore the camel toe when I sat and the waistband cutting into the front of my waist when I was sitting working at my desk. And I told myself they would stretch and get more comfortable the more I sat, they are stunning pants and Leo likes them, so I should buy them.
UGH. WHAT THE EVER LOVING HELL. WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES??? I refuse to suffer to “look good”. I never really have, eschewing high heels while I was working in an office and pretty much always choosing to be comfortable above all else.
I almost fell for it though. THEY LOOK SO GOOD. Maybe all the other bloggers and women on Instagram who wear these pants all the time don’t have the problem that I do when I sit. Maybe it’s my shorter waist and larger upper thigh area that’s causing the discomfort? Also, the pants are not stretchy at all, Jehanne mentioned an alternative by Creatures of Comfort that has a little stretch in it that she likes a lot.
Never mind, I’m not going to let myself fall into the trap of having a great pair of pants to wear for pictures or special occasions during which I don’t have to sit (as if there would be any…). No thank you.
It is SUCH an easy trap to fall into though. Especially with items that are so expensive; we feel bound to them somehow, as if we owe it to this “perfect” garment, this piece that literally EVERYONE is raving about, to make it work for our bodies and our lifestyles.
no. no no no. (if you don’t seem to have “sitting” problems with high-waisted pants, I do still recommend trying these. They’re beautiful, and extremely well made)
Moving on. I did decide to keep both James Perse dresses I ordered during the Shopbop sale, but only because I’m selling my two least worn JP dresses to make room for them. I will wear the new ones much more than the ones I’m getting rid of because the new ones have 3/4 sleeves – something I always seem to wear more than sleeveless or short sleeve dresses.
Speaking of JP…if you’re a fan just make sure you don’t miss any posts any time soon. That’s all I can say about that 😉
I read Everything Happens for a Reason and Other Lies I’ve Loved (another book from Bill Gates’ summer reading -list that I also had already in my wishlist). I was underwhelmed. It was pretty shallow actually, which I found deeply disappointing. I thought she would talk more about the idea people have that “everything happens for a reason” and her own feelings/thoughts about it, not examine it in such a scholarly way. But she is a religious scholar, so perhaps I should have expected it. It was written well I guess, and an interesting look a dealing with a serious illness AND the reactions/advice from both strangers and loved-ones alike.
I don’t know what she could have done differently actually. As a person who absolutely does NOT believe that everything happens for a reason, maybe I was looking for validation? ETA: I didn’t express my disappointment correctly : I think what I wanted to understand is how, if you shift to the belief that “everything happens, period,” as she did, you reconcile that understanding with a belief in “God” or some higher power that has a purpose or guidance for you. Those seem to be contradictory to me, and she continued to speak of “God” quite a bit without addressing any questions she might have grappled with was disappointing to me.
I also read The Year of Less I first heard about on the Luxe Strategist and then I think Michelle mentioned the podcast? And the book was $1.99, so I thought I’d give it a try. Eh. It didn’t do much for me. It’s all things I already “know” and have written about, in terms of my struggles with over-consumption and trying to shop more mindfully. She did remind me of some things I thought were relevant, and want to write more about later, but mostly the book helped me really come to terms with the fact that my job/career/passion is clothing, style, and independent designers, so I need/want to shop periodically to DO MY JOB. I just have to approach it in a more sustainable, un-soul-sucking way.
Now, I’ve started The Overstory, a completely different book entirely 🙂
Working? We’ve also gotten into a summer routine of playing Catan every evening after dinner that I really like. We even ordered an expansion pack for it because we thought we needed more. My step-son loves to play board games, and so do I. I’m not sure how much Leo enjoys it, but he’s a good sport – he likes card games better I think. Anyway, does anyone have any other good board game suggestions for three people (including a teenage boy??)
Have a great weekend!! What are you reading, watching and doing lately?